My Kara

Posted by Rebecca

You have probably heard the statement that friends come into your life for a reason, for a season, or for a lifetime.  This makes a lot of sense to me.  Friends for a reason fulfill a mutual need, perhaps based on a shared experience.  Friends for a season mark a certain time in your life, like the friends I made during my rock climbing phase or my vintage hat phase (incidentally I no longer have rock climbing gear nor vintage hats in my possession, or the friends that came with them).  And then there are the friends for a lifetime – ones with whom you have a special connection; someone who ‘gets’ you and you ‘get’ them.  These are the friends that are harder to find, and the friendships that you want to make a real effort to maintain.  These are the friends that remain a part of you forever.

Last week I mentioned that my life had been challenging lately.  That is because last week one of my ‘lifetime’ friends moved to the exact opposite end of the country – Orlando, FL.  Sigh!

Kara and I met in 2004.  My future-husband and her husband were cousins, and we met at a family anniversary party.  I liked her from the moment I met her.  She was funny and sarcastic and smart – 3 of my favorite qualities.  A year later when my then-husband and I moved to Reno, I knew the move would be great, in large-part because I already had someone there that I was sure would be a close friend.  Our new friendship was never awkward or required much effort.  We just hit it off right away and have been super close ever since.

During our friendship we’ve both been through ups and downs, and we have been there to help each other during the hard times and rejoice with each other during the happy times.  She was a willing shoulder to cry on during my divorce, she was a cheerleader when the pink trailer was purchased, and an eager demolition crew and construction worker when my trailer was renovated.

Kara’s husband accepted a job in Orlando last spring, motivated mostly by the lack-luster job market we still have here in Reno.  Kara spent the next several months preparing for the move, tying up loose ends, and enjoying everything she could think of during one last summer in Nevada.  We camped at the lake, floated the Truckee river, spent warm evenings on the patio, and did our best to have a great summer.  And it was great.

But of course the day came for the move.  It was heartbreaking and emotional.  And not just for the two of us – Kara has a ton of friends and family here that are really going to miss her.

Reno boasts 300 days of sunshine a year.  However, I can’t help but think Reno is now a little gloomier with Kara gone.  Yet, I know that because of her, Orlando will soon find it is sunnier than ever.  xoxo

Rebecca Knabe

P.S.  We’re both going to be ok, though.  We are determined to keep in touch regularly because we know we are ‘lifetime’ friends.  And Kara is keeping herself occupied, searching for the best ‘gator viewing spots in Florida, so that when I get a chance to visit I can get some fantastic photos of the local reptiles!  😀

P.P.S.  Here are a few photos from Kara’s pink flamingo-themed Going-Away Big Night Out.

Kara and her gum (I love this photo)


7 thoughts on “My Kara

  1. This post made me get all teary eyed!!! :,) You’re gonna be all right! I understand you completely! Its with Ng and I. We’ve been friends since middle school. And we are still staying in touch even though we live on totally different continents.
    I hope the best for your guy’s friendship!! Love ya both! <3!

  2. I’m crying too.. ( sniff, sniff!!) I hate “goodbyes”.. Never was one to handle them .. and believe me, I have had my share in my life time. My two Bff’s and I have been friends for over 30 + yrs. When I got married and left my beloved bay area and moved to Reno, I couldn’t imagine what my life would be like with them so far away. But I had to start a new life. Because our friendships are special and endearing, we have managed to keep in touch and visit one other at least 4-6 times a year. Of course, they are not at the opposite end of the country, so that makes it convienent. But.. long distance friendships last. True friendships are forever. No distance can keep genuine friends apart. Now, it is always SPECIAL when we do see each other. We pick up right where we left off. Up til this day we still plan our “girls weekend” one a year.
    Still, it’s sad, but the thought of being together again makes it all better. One of my favorite sayings is: “Don’t be sad it’s over, be glad that it happened”. Our friendship isn’t over, but I sure am glad that that it happened to us!! 🙂

  3. This is a wonderful story of true friendship and made me smile. You both look like you could be sisters and you will always be so in the truest meaning. I had a similar experience with my BF and we know we will always be BFF no matter that we don’t live close to each other anymore. Blessings, on you both!

  4. Loved how you pulled it all together (with a little help from your friends) and started anew! Hang in there and know there is always another new day tomorrow!! Good luck and hang in there in sunny Reno!!

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